With Age Comes Wisdom… Sometimes
Having been matchmaking for almost two months now, there is a disturbing pattern I have seen: that age and fertility status become so much more than a person’s looks, humor, or wisdom. I wish I was kidding.
Life is about opportunities for growth and relationships give us the opportunity to grow together! To compliment one another and become a whole. So when you’re looking for a partner, the idea of seeking out someone just because they’re younger or more fertile is… disturbing. You are not owed youthfulness. When G-d blessed Abraham and Sarah with their first child, Sarah was 99 years old! Sarah had struggled with her fertility throughout her lifetime, but Abraham never made her feel less for it! He was patient and loving and never doubted Sarah or in G-d’s plan for them.
Relationships might look different in 2026, but many of these core values remain the same. Relationships aren’t just about making babies, they’re about building a life together. Finding someone you can laugh with, cheer for, and love with your whole heart. Relationships are partnerships and what you get out of it depends on just how much you put in.
But not every woman can have kids. That does not make her inherently worth less than someone who can. Often times, people don’t even realize that the infertility is on the men’s side, too! So before judging someone for their fertility, you need to realize that creating kids is not just an act of passion, of two souls coming together and creating life: it’s also about learning the important lessons of valuing your partner before and after they give birth.
If you’re using dating like a grocery list, just checking off all of the boxes- you might want to check your priorities, your mirror, and most of all, your bank account.
Women are not a checklist, they are powerful and beautiful creatures with lives, dreams, and goals of their own. This is why courtship matters, because finding the right person to compliment you will elevate you both, never mind age or fertility.
And ladies? know your worth. Endless checklists won’t get you closer to a real match, but focusing on values will. Your compatibility goes beyond his looks, amount of hair on his head, or his annual income. It’s about the ability to complete each other.
