Courting, Respect, and Why Judaism Got This Right Long Ago

Judaism teaches that when a man and a woman come together, they form a complete whole. Neither diminishes the other; both elevate one another. That belief alone should shape how we approach dating.

Courting matters. If you’re interested in a woman, be curious. Ask questions. Look for real connection. Compliments are fine—but messages that focus only on appearance or emojis can feel uncomfortable and lazy, rather than flattering.

Class matters. Sexually suggestive messages definitely don’t build connection and are creepy. Women already feel vulnerable meeting with a stranger.

Effort matters. If you ask a woman out, go to her location. Plan the date. Open doors. Walk her to her car. Even if there is no interest in a second date, make sure she’s safe. These aren’t outdated rules—they’re expressions of respect.

EVERYONE- presence matters. Put time and care into getting ready. Show up dressed like you care, and be present. PUT THE PHONE AWAY!

This isn’t about rules or pressure. It’s about kavod—honor. Dating should be approached with intention and respect.

Written from experience—and 36 years of marriage.